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New Video: Adoptee Access to Original Birth Certificates

Posted on March 28th, 2013 by David R. Ford

In an earlier post I talked about the need to give adoptees access to their “Original Birth Certificates” — the ones with their birth parents’ names on them.  Despite some movement toward granting access, three-quarters of all U.S. states still prohibit adoptees from signing these accurate documents, giving us only the certificates that identify our adoptive parents.  My friends at Mind&Media (www.mindandmedia.com) have helped me produce a video on the issue: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SOb70vGEPQA&feature=player_embedded

Father’s Day Can Be a Strange Time for Adoptees

Posted on June 3rd, 2011 by David R. Ford

Father’s Day can be a strange time for adopted kids.  Even those of us who were raised by wonderful adoptive parents may still harbor strong feelings—even if it’s just curiosity—about our unseen birth fathers.  In my case I found my birth mother later in life and had a long, complicated relationship with her.  And yet her husband of more than 50 years (who was my biological father) steadfastly refused to have any contact with me or the other three children they gave up for adoption.  He died without giving us the chance to understand him, and the shadow that hangs permanently over him leaves me with bittersweet thoughts on Father’s Day.

Birth Mothers Who Want to Meet The Children They Gave Up

Posted on May 3rd, 2011 by David R. Ford

As an advocate for adoptees’ rights to access their original birth certificates (the ones that show the names of the birth parents), I’ve had the chance to talk to birth mothers and learn more about organizations that support them in their efforts to connect with their birth children.  My informal study of the issue tells me that most birth mothers have a strong interest in knowing how things turned out for the kids they gave up, and would encourage some level of contact with their adult birth children.  That’s not to say that they are looking for a full relationship with the adoptees, but that they would at least welcome contact from their birth children.

Do You Have a Story of Looking For a Sibling?

Posted on April 22nd, 2011 by David R. Ford

Have you discovered a sibling (or half-sibling) out there, someone your parents kept secret from you?  As a kid, for whatever reason, I wasn’t so interested in finding my birth parents.  Maybe it was something along the lines of, “They weren’t interested in me, so why should I be interested in them?”  But I was very interested in finding my older brother from the first day I learned that he existed.

I would love to hear from any adoptees who were spurred on to begin their searches by  the knowledge (or hope) that they had siblings somewhere out there.