Posted on March 20th, 2011 by David R. Ford
When people hear (or read) the story of my birth parents—a married, middle-class couple who secretly gave up four of their seven children for adoption at birth—they often ask me, Why?” As in: why would my birth parents have so many children that they weren’t going to keep? It’s hard to imagine how difficult it would have been for a woman to be pregnant for a big part of seven years with four children she would serially give up for adoption.
The second half of my book explores the “why” question. But my adoptive mother has a touching answer of her own: “Your birth parents kept having those babies until they created you for us.”
Posted on March 18th, 2011 by David R. Ford
I grew up (in the 1950’s and 1960’s) at a time when adoption was treated as a secret. The assumption seemed to be that the adopted kid was the product of an immoral liaison (unwed parents and so on). So it isn’t surprising that most state adoption laws of that era ensured that all of the facts of an adoptee’s birth were kept secret from the world. The paternalistic view seemed to be that the state was protecting the birth parents from the shame of an unwanted birth and the adopted child from the judgmental eye of the community.
Posted on March 17th, 2011 by David R. Ford
I started writing Blind in One Eye: A Story About Seeing the Possibilities just so that I could keep the memories of my search for my adoption history in one place. By the time I’d finished, though, the book had a bigger purpose for me. Yes, I do tell the startling details of finding my secretive birth family—and it’s a story in which I’m very happy to have played a role.