Posted on April 1st, 2011 by David R. Ford
My adoptive parents were open with me about my adoption from the earliest time that I could understand the concept. Maybe because Mom and Dad were wonderful parents, I had no particular interest in learning about my birth parents while I was a kid. In fact, my only real interest was in some day finding the seven-year-older brother who was being raised by my birth parents.
Posted on March 31st, 2011 by David R. Ford
My real (adoptive) mother lives in a wonderful retirement community. I’m sure that some adoptive parents might be sensitive about their child writing a memoir of finding his big, strange birth family. Not my Mom! I doubt there are many residents in the community who haven’t heard of—and by now read—my memoir. Mom has warned me that, whenever I visit these days, there will be a different group that wants to talk to me about the book, and it’s been true so far. Now I just need her to work her magic on the New York Times best-seller list.
Posted on March 23rd, 2011 by David R. Ford
One of the great things about writing Blind in One Eye: A Story About Seeing the Possibilities, or just talking to people about finding my birth family, is that the intimacy and emotion of it seems to encourage people to tell me their stories. Often the stories relate to adoption, but sometimes they’re about variations on the theme of “family secrets.” I’ve learned not to be too surprised by the reactions I get to my story, and have learned much about the complexities of families.
Posted on March 20th, 2011 by David R. Ford
When people hear (or read) the story of my birth parents—a married, middle-class couple who secretly gave up four of their seven children for adoption at birth—they often ask me, Why?” As in: why would my birth parents have so many children that they weren’t going to keep? It’s hard to imagine how difficult it would have been for a woman to be pregnant for a big part of seven years with four children she would serially give up for adoption.
The second half of my book explores the “why” question. But my adoptive mother has a touching answer of her own: “Your birth parents kept having those babies until they created you for us.”
Posted on March 17th, 2011 by David R. Ford
I started writing Blind in One Eye: A Story About Seeing the Possibilities just so that I could keep the memories of my search for my adoption history in one place. By the time I’d finished, though, the book had a bigger purpose for me. Yes, I do tell the startling details of finding my secretive birth family—and it’s a story in which I’m very happy to have played a role.